We’ve all felt it – from family, friends, our children, even our spouse. REJECTION STINGS!
When people make us feel “less than” it can leave us feeling empty and alone.
We want to tell them they’ve misunderstood or misjudged us. If they knew us, they’d accept us. Right?
Unfortunately, sometimes the answer is NO.
People are not perfect. We get hurt and offended. We misjudge and judge too harshly. We are rejected for our opinions, our preferences, our looks, our status, and all kinds of things. In a perfect world these differences might not matter – but in this imperfect world, and to imperfect creations, differences can divide.
Other times, rejection happens simply because we were not meant to be accepted by all people.
If everyone I sought acceptance from would have given it to me, my life might be very different – and not in a good way. That popular crowd might have accepted me in school. And that might have led me down destructive paths or put me in situations too great for my own strength. God allowed me to suffer rejection instead.
Or, maybe I would have married that other guy – whose life is far from God and my marriage would be nothing like the blessed one I have now, with the man God did intend for me. God allowed me to suffer rejection instead.
Still, we are human – and rejection hurts. It’s hard to trust that pain – rejection – might be a good thing. So what do we do?
How do we move from the hurt to the healing? From confusion to understanding? From fear to trusting God? We need to look past the pain and realize an important truth:
Trust in the LORD with all your heart – and do not lean on your own understanding. Prov. 3:5
Rejection is sometimes a great blessing!
We need to trust our loving Father! We need to surrender in all our ways – always. Whatever the circumstance, the heartbreak, the disappointment, the fear, the loneliness — God is working in our lives. He is moving us toward a greater joy than the one we were seeking. We cannot see all of our tomorrows the way God can. We need to trust Him – because He is working for our good!
God works for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28
We don’t have to ignore the pain – or pretend it doesn’t hurt.
Decide now that the sting of rejection will not overcome you. God has been shaping a good work in you ~ even through all the heartache of rejection and feeling “less than.”
As a child of God, you are acceptable – you are loved – you are enough.
He will rejoice over you with gladness . . . He will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17
Now THAT is the kind of love and acceptance that should make our hearts overflowing with joy!